This is something I've wanted to address for a long time, it is an important issue and I'm not trying to solve it, just to address it.
(image grabbed from http://www.utoronto.ca/qol/)
People
come in all shapes, sizes and colors. They have many different religious
beliefs, political beliefs, socio-economic situations, education levels,
talents and abilities. They live in cities, suburbs, small towns and rural
areas. I am an overweight middle-aged
middle class white woman with a graduate degree living in the middle of a big
City. Do I have the same interests as a slender young Asian male with a high
school diploma living in the suburbs? Probably not. Is my life better than his?
I might say yes. He might say no. We would both be right because neither of us
is in a position to judge the quality of the other person’s life.
The
quality of an individual’s life is subjective. It is unique to that person. Nevertheless,
quality of life is measured all the time. These measurements use objective
criteria and apply it generally to make a determination. We hear Magazines and
surveys rate places on their “quality of life” score. For places that seems to
be a combination of the weather and the number of universities and opera houses
in the vicinity. The objective criteria, the weather and the arts – are predictors
of the quality of life, because presumably most people want nice weather and
access to the arts. However, if you like rain and hate opera that measurement does
not mean much to you. Maybe you choose to live in a place because you ran out
of gas in that town and found a job there. Turns out the people were nice and
you made a life there. You still decide what brings quality to your life.
Applying
the objective criteria in a magazine survey is harmless and fun to read –
especially if your area makes the “best” or “worst” lists. There are other
areas, though, where it can be dangerous. When individuals or institutions decide
from an objective standard that your quality of life is not good, and they have
the power to affect your life, the results can be disastrous. I am talking, of
course about healthcare.
There are legitimate “quality of life” issues
in health care. Healthcare providers and patients will address quality of life issues
in making healthcare decisions. If a treatment will take pain away a patient’s
quality of life may improve. It is an important factor for patients to consider in deciding whether to undergo treatment. It
is the patient’s unique life. Only the patient knows what the quality is and
what will improve it.
Yes.
Some things are obvious. Less pain will increase almost everyone’s quality of
life and it is safe to make that assumption. Many things are not so obvious.
Other circumstances will have an impact. Taking the drivers license away may have less
of an impact on the quality of life of a person who lives in the city with easy
access to public transportation than it will to a person who lives alone on a
farm. It depends on the individual. It
depends on the life they are living.
I
can safely say that most people would not want to be in Maggie’s situation. She
is totally dependent on others for every need. For most of us that would be a
devastating and unacceptable change in our quality of life. For Maggie, though,
THIS IS HER LIFE. It is the only life she
has ever known; and I can tell you first hand, the quality of her life is different
from yours and mine, but it is great. She is happy, loved, comfortable, pain
free, smart, educated, engaging and entertaining. Often times I envy her for
the joy in her heart.
People
do not know that to look at her. They do not see the joy (unless they wait 30
seconds). They see the wheelchair. They see the trach. They do not see Maggie. If
they did, they would know. Maggie is joyfully living the life she was given.
She is living it to its greatest potential. If that is not quality, I do not
know what is.
There have been several instances where
doctors do not want to treat her based on her quality of life. They measure
her life by their own subjective criteria and find it unacceptable. It is
snobbery. It is bias. It is discrimination. Then Maggie does something to
surprise them. She smiles or makes a crack on her dynavox and they look at her
from a different angle. Generally, it
takes them about 10 minutes to realize the mistake they have made. (The braying
mother in the background may help or hurt – never sure which)
Recently
and for the first time one doctor did not change his mind. Maggie needs surgery
to address a life-threatening problem and he refused, requiring us to change
doctors. He decided Maggie’s quality of life was too low to try to save. He
made a decision that Maggie is not worth it.
He
is wrong.
Wow!!! The end of your blog was shocking! I didnt see that coming. I hope you found someone who will save Maggie's life.. she is important to all of us:)
ReplyDeleteHe is so wrong. Maggie, and children like her, are all worth it. People should not judge others. I hope everything is going okay.
ReplyDeleteBrilliant. I often think about this issue -- debate it, really, with even close friends and family.
ReplyDeleteI am heavy at heart that Maggie has to have surgery but will hope that it will extend her joyous life. Thank you for sharing her joy with us -- her smile and pictures and shenanigans are proof that life is something to exult in, and there's nothing subjective about that.
Sally,
ReplyDeleteYour last two posts are heartbreaking. You are a warrior and you will make sure Maggie gets the care she needs but it is so wrong the obstacles you have to face.
What my mom works at UCSF so if it was there let me know he is wrong
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